FAQs
Why did you keep your pregnancy a secret?
Well, our pregnancy wasn’t a secret. Lots of people knew. Doctors. Medical staff. Locals. So by definition, that’s not a secret. However, we did choose to limit the number of people that knew. So if you got this far and didn’t read Our Story, we recommend you go back and do so, as it will explain a lot. But if you’re looking for a short answer, the answer is, “It’s what we needed to do to get through it.”
When can I visit?
We know how keen you are to meet our newest member, but please allow us time to get to know each other and spend quality time as a family of 4 (including Rosey) before Nick returns to work. We’ve waited a long time for this moment. If you wish to visit in the future, please contact Nick, and he will let you know when we are up for visitors. Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.
Are you coming back East anytime soon?
We currently don’t have any trips scheduled. We’d like Pippa’s immune system to be more developed before we go toting her all over the country. But, we will probably make a trip to Florida when we are ready for Pippa to meet her Grandparents and Great-Grandparents.
Why didn’t you say anything about the twins: Maya and Zion?
The plan was to tell people about the twins when the pregnancy was viable. For us, that would have been just past 27 weeks (when Marley died), and the chances of sustaining life outside of the womb increased significantly – around mid-January 2021. We never made it that far. Zion died 4 days before Christmas, and that’s a hell of a time to call people up and say, “Hey, I know you didn’t know I was pregnant. But our baby just died again. Yeah, this time, it was two of them. Merry Christmas.” The timing was off. We weren’t ready to share the news, and it was nice to have time during the holidays to grieve quietly in the way we needed to.
Are you having a shower or 'Sip and See'?
No. There are various reasons for this, but most importantly is Pippa’s health and safety. Our pediatrician has recommended that we limit her public exposure for the first few months so that her immune system can develop. Unfortunately, although the pandemic is over for most people, it’s not for us. We’ve spent the last two years not traveling, limiting social engagements, masking EVERYWHERE, and generally being over-cautious just to get to this point. So as variants continue to develop, and there are no vaccines or treatments for children under 2, we will probably continue to be overly-cautious parents for a while.
Will you have a Christening?
We no longer practice Christianity and thus, have no plans to have Pippa christened.
Why are all your photos watermarked?
Well fortunately/unfortunately Monique works in digital marketing (she’s the one that built this gorgeous website!). So she knows all about the nefarious things people do with images from the web. And since we’re private people, we want to keep our daughter’s life private too. We don’t want her image blasted all over social media or in ways that we can’t control. Which is why we house them here on our site and watermarked.
How can I help?
Thanks for asking! Please visit our Helping Out page for more information on ways to help.